My Grandma often spoke of growing up in the 1890s – often called the “Gay ‘90s.” Although her girlhood was austere and filled with hard work, she still said the era was fun. Of course, “fun” in the 1890s is relative to a society emerging from practices like dressing naked statues, calling arms and legs “limbs,” ladies covering their ankles at all times, swimwear that showed very little (bummer!), and other things that sound silly now. So Grandma’s “fun” could have been an unchaperoned tour of the statue section of the art museum wearing calf-length skirts.
In the Gay ‘90s, wise-cracking arose as an American social skill. Brand-new Coca Cola “picked you up” with that pinch of cocaine. (The real “Real Thing.”) Ragtime, pre-packaged cigarettes, the “funny papers,” and the foxtrot were all the rage. Grandma never touched tobacco and she disapproved of the foxtrot, but even as a very old lady she liked a catchy tune and still read the comics with her magnifying glass. (I doubt if she ever sampled “original” coke.)
I say all this as background for two observations: (1) that the 1990s have yet to be named (wags have suggested the II Gay ‘90s); and (2) that humor – no less than the foxtrot, “original coke,” and cigarettes (pre-packaged or otherwise) – has hit a very rough patch in recent years. I think future historians might call ours “The Grim ’90s;” and will argue about exactly when humor died; whether it was killed; and, if so, how the deed was done.
Claiming that humor is dead will surprise many, of course, since more people than ever are doing zanier and zanier things on TV. Eventually, as the public’s comedic taste buds become completely numbed, a comedian might have to blow himself up on stage to keep his audience’s attention.
That, of course, is “entertainment” and is not what I mean when I speak of humor. Instead, I refer to an optimistic, light-hearted way of looking at everyday life, and a not overly serious regard for oneself. This kind of humor, if not dead, is definitely on life support. To know this, you needn’t look much farther than our workplaces. We spend a lot of time on the job. If you clobber humor there, you’ve struck it a serious blow – maybe one it can’t recover from.
One of the worst things to happen to workplace humor in our generation was the wretched union of “rights” and “sensitivity,” which produced their demented child, litigation. (Is it still OK to say “demented?”) This unholy family has deformed the modern workplace into a bland, sterile place where managers live in mortal fear that someone from the “protected classes” will call the workplace “hostile,” sue for big bucks, and ruin the managers’ careers (and maybe the company).
I used to think I knew something about the “hostile workplace.” At a summer job during college, the regulars threatened to kick my butt if I didn’t stop working so fast. Today, a hostile workplace is where somebody pins up a cartoon or droll clipping which makes a joke or a political or social point you don’t like. That pinup might “prove,” in a court of law, that your employer really doesn’t like you. It could produce a hefty award to soothe your bruised feelings. ”Yumah” (as they say in The Big Apple) has never paid so well as it now does in court.
But humor isn’t dying merely because of frightened bosses, greedy employees and ambitious lawyers. If humor croaks, it will be because ordinary people are waaay too serious about their politics, their jobs, their lives, and themselves. Most of us actually approve of “neo-fascist” humor-control because: (a) we don’t think things are all that funny; and (b) we don’t want anyone laughing at our stuff.
Basically, nothing can be lampooned anymore, because the joke might offend someone with the leverage to make a Federal case of their hurt feelings. These days, that’s nearly everyone. (Remember Pollack jokes? Today you’d be fired and maybe arrested for telling one.) Only middle-aged white men can safely be laughed at, now, as a group. And after you’ve squeezed a few laughs out of baldness, pot-bellies, viagra, and prostates, how funny are these guys, really?
Late in my career I worked on a government contract where one morning a waggish item made its way from someone’s e-mail to the kitchenette bulletin-board. It was a list of reasons why computers are female. (‘They cost a bundle; they make you wait; they always have a headache at the wrong time’ – etc. Made sense, actually.) Nothing lewd or dirty – just silly. I saw women laughing as they read it.
Nevertheless, a huge uproar ensued because a few women complained to the project boss. In an “all hands” meeting he roasted us (with a straight face) for the “insensitive slander” of the posting. (But he didn’t deny that computers were female.) Naturally, the prankster lay low, probably fearing the worst. That manager was never taken seriously after that. (No sensayumah)
On another project, two staff members actually were fired for forwarding an e-mail which contained an ethnic joke. It wasn’t a racial slur, but the e-mail reached a completely humorless person. The address-trace fingered the luckless perps, and they were summarily discharged. Their immediate managers were notified after the fact. Thenceforth, fear and outrage reigned. Staff morale was mortally wounded, with dire result.
In the private sector, re-competing an ongoing contract requires a great deal of unpaid overtime by senior project staff. Only they know enough about the work to write the proposal. Those draconian firings so offended senior staff that they lost confidence in the project’s management. Consequently they made a weak, dispirited proposal effort, and the company failed to win the new contract. The business unit dissolved, as project staff scattered. All this wreckage over a joke!
Back in the old neighborhood, when somebody objected to a comment he didn’t like, the routine response was, “Hey, it’s a free country.” Try to remember when you last heard that expression anywhere – especially on the job.
Thus, the modern workplace approaches C. S. Lewis’s description of Hell. Dr. Lewis, one of the twentieth century’s greatest Christian apologists, rejected the comic imagery of flames, horned demons, red tights and pitchforks. His metaphor for Hell was “…the bureaucracy of a police state or the offices of a thoroughly nasty business concern …where everyone is perpetually concerned about his own dignity and advancement, where everyone has a grievance, and where everyone lives the deadly serious passions of envy, self-importance, and resentment.” (The Screwtape Letters, C. S. Lewis, 1943) If that doesn’t describe modern politics, I don’t know what does.
The “mark of Hell,” said Lewis, is a “…ruthless, sleepless, unsmiling concentration upon self…” Hell’s utterly humorless denizens lack any “…proportion and ability to see [themselves] from the outside.” (Sound familiar?)
This suggests that humor is not just a cultural curiosity, but a spiritual indicator. When an individual laughs easily, sees absurdity in the ordinary stuff of life, and can joke and give his fellows pleasure, it means he is generous, optimistic and hopeful, and cares for others. But when one sees nothing funny – cannot laugh or joke or poke fun at oneself – it’s a warning flag. (“Beware a man who never laughs,” my pop told me. “There’s something wrong there.”)
Lewis did not explicitly say humor was a “religious” characteristic, but he obviously thought being humorless had a diabolical cast. I’m sure he would agree that humor comes from inside the person and cannot be pretended. Lewis thought Hell must be a grim, humorless place because the souls of its demons contained only rage, fear, jealousy, malice, violence, hatred, and all manner of evil. As human beings, we are all sinners, but being possessed by evil is a different matter. (I highly recommend The Screwtape Letters – whether you believe in Hell or not.)
We started out discussing humor and a lighthearted approach to life, but here we are in deep theological waters. Humor is a positive personal response to life and the world, but a society filled with humorless people is no joke. What’s really going on inside the souls of unsmiling people who see everything in terms of grim self-interest and personal grievance? (And do we really want to know?)
It’s tempting to say we should “get hold of ourselves,” “lighten up,” etc. Maybe we’re just in a temporary funk – too easily offended by trivia. Perhaps we can think and act more positively, and regain the capacity to hear fun poked at modern foibles or politics without complaining to the grievance-police.
I hope so, but I’m doubtful because humor is as much a societal indicator as a personal indicator. As I see it, a humorless society means its people have a spiritual problem. We are wounded in our hearts, not in our funny-bones. What’s missing is a connection with God that produces hope, optimism and confidence, and makes us care about others. And like humor itself, this connection can be neither acted nor pretended. Only the real article can make us a joyful, lighthearted people, and keep “work” and “hell” from becoming diabolical synonyms.
“The Devil, that prowde Spirit, cannot endure to be mocked.” (John Donne)